Friday, February 15, 2019 Newsletter - Issue 19

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February 15, 2019 -  Issue 19

Stinkin' Thinkin' Produces More Bad Golf Shots Than Positive Thinking Ever Helps!

In his book, Golf is not a Game of Perfect, Dr. Bob Rotella states that “The correlation between thinking well and making a good shot is not 100% BUT the correlation between thinking badly and unsuccessful shots is much higher.”

Simply put. Positive thinking and visualization does not necessarily create a good shot but thinking badly almost guarantees producing a bad shot.

Unfortunately this truism plays out numerous times times in the course of a round. There are far more opportunities to expect the worst rather than the best.

For Example:

I’ll use a real life example of this. The sixteenth hole on the golf course that I play which is a 170 yard par three. It’s uphill with sand bunkers left and right as well as out of bounds on the right and over the green. There is even a little pond 90 yards short of the green which really never comes into play unless the shot is mis-hit badly. It’s simply there as yet another reminder of what could go wrong.

Most golfers gazing out at this hole are not thinking about the beautiful high fade shot they are going to hit that will travel the perfect distance land gently on the green in between the two traps and leave a putt for possible birdie. As we have learned, even if they are it does not guarantee a quality shot.

More likely they are thinking some thoughts like the real ones I actually have had which I’ll share below.

“What if I pull it left into the bunker, it’s such a hard chip shot with the green sloping away, I’ll never save a par.” “What if I push it right. There is not much room between the green and out of bounds plus it might hit the cart path on the right side of the green and bounce out.” “What if choose the wrong club and go long. It could go out of bounds or leave an impossibly difficult chip shot to an elevated green.” “What if heaven forbid, I flub the shot and knock it in the pond. Not only is it a penalty but it is embarrassing.”

More Things Wrong Than Right

There are four things that can go wrong and one can go right. Simple math says the odds are four to one that one of he negative thoughts will dominate. Since that is our thinking tendency anyway the odds increase even more.

A major benefit of EFT is that it is not based on positive thinking which we have already seen does not predict a good shot anyway. EFT actually encourages you to bring the negative fear or emotion to the forefront of your mind so it can be addressed using the tapping procedure to eliminate the negative charge creating static in your energy system when these thoughts pop into your head. By eliminating this static and fear that accompanies it we will be able to take a smoother, stress free swing with a nice follow through rather than a frantic, hurried, choppy swing. The tension free swing has a much better chance of success compared to the scared, choppy swing.

Sample Tapping Phrases to Use in the Tapping Protocol

I’m afraid of pulling the ball left.
I’m afraid of pushing it right.
I hate this hole.
Why does this hole have to ruin a good round.
I’ve been out of bounds the last three times I played this hole.
I haven’t made par on this hole the last three times I played it.
I dread this hole.

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Friday, June 22, 2018 Newsletter - Issue 18

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June 25, 2018 -  Issue 18
"How to avoid a Melt Down….ala Phil Mickelson"

If you are a golf fan you probably watched or heard about Phil Mickelson’s
classic act of frustration in last weeks US Open. Phil intentionally hit a golf
ball that was still moving while he was putting on the thirteenth hole and
incurred a two stroke penalty. It is something every weekend golfer has
wanted to do, in fact some of you might have already done it. But for a
world class golfer to do it. Well it left the announcers speechless.

One can only imagine the level of frustration that would compel a golfer of
his stature ability and experience to lose control like that on a world stage.
If ever there was an EFT teaching moment in golf, this was it. But it’s to
late you might be saying. He already did it. Well I submit to you if Phil new
about EFT this event would have never happened. Since it has happened
Phil could use EFT now to deal with the fallout from and embarrassment
from the event and make sure he never reaches that level of frustration
again. Listed below are some tapping phrases Phil could have used
before and after his episode.

Performance in golf or any other sport is usually about playing inside your
comfort zone. Clearly course conditions and circumstances knocked Phil
out of his comfort zone.


Here are a few even though statements Phil might have used prior to
his blowup when he knew he was getting frustrated.
  • Even though I hate the course set up
  • Even though conditions are unfair
  • Even though these greens are ridiculously hard
  • Even though they stuck the pins in unfair positions
  • Even though I’m so frustrated with the course and my score
  • Event though I’d like to give a piece of my mind to whoever set up this course


Here are a few statements he might have used after the blowup
  • Even though I lost my cool in front of twenty million people
  • Even though I’m embarrassed to face my fans
  • Even though I’ll have a tough time living this down
  • Even though this will stick with me a long time
  • Even though I’m tired of talking to the media about it
  • Even though I let my family down
  • Even though my behavior was unprofessional

What kind of conditions or circumstances knock you out of your
comfort zone. Make a list and tap on those feelings before and after
your next round of golf.

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Friday, April 27, 2018 Newsletter - Issue 17

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April 27, 2018 -  Issue 17

"Where Do I Start?"

The number one question I get from clients is, “what do I start tapping on to improve my golf game”. They ask, is there a script, or magic words, how do I know what the most important problem is to work on?
All good questions. First answer - there are no magic words or scripts. The success of EFT is based on eliminating negative emotions and beliefs that  stand in the way of your success.  We all have different experiences, viewpoints and beliefs that form the lens we look through today.  Unlike socks there is no one size fits all, script or answer. So I say, start where you are. Very clever you say, but what does that mean.  It means there are many doors you can open to arrive at the correct answer. So start where you are. A beginning golfer or recreational golfer has different goals than a seasoned player who competes at his club or a touring professional who competes for a living. So I repeat start where you are. Ask yourself what you want improve upon or change. Do you just want to make contact with the ball and stop whiffing? Do you want to be more competitive, have more fun, stop having anxiety when you play with friends.  Perhaps you want less anxiety about joining a local golf league or playing with strangers on vacation when you are paired up with other vacationers.
Start with the low hanging fruit and go for the easy problems.  Start tapping as you focus on the immediate fear or problem.
For example:
I’m scared to death I’m going to miss the ball when I swing.
I’m intimidated playing with friends who are better than me.
I’m intimidated playing with strangers.
I never seem to make a putt when the pressure is on.
There could be countless more starting points because we are all unique though we may have similar fears. The success of EFT comes from delving deeper into the fears and emotions to find out where they started.  By identifying and tapping on originating events when we first experienced an  emotion we are then able to reduce and eliminate our negative response to it now.
Sound simple.  It is simple but requires some practice and of course learning the process. Order your copy of Better Golf with EFT today and get started on your journey to playing better golf today.


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Friday, January 26, 2018

EFT in the News - Featured on Megyn Kelly Today

Did you happen to see Megyn Kelly Today last week?  With special guest Adrienne Cerulo, Megyn and Adrienne discuss how EFT freed her from excruciating pain.

It's a clip worth watching - and a technique worth trying.  Check out the clip here.

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Friday, January 12, 2018 Newsletter - Issue 16

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January 10, 2017 -  Issue 16

"Learn to Love Putting”


All aspects of .golf are important.  Every golfer wants to smash long drives  hit crisp irons and make 20 foot putts for birdie. However if there was one area you could concentrate on that would give you the most bang for your buck I suggest it should be putting.   Putting accounts for as much as 35% or 50% of your score (shoot 90 and take 36 putts it’s 40%, take 40 putts and its 44%, take 32 putts and it’s only 35% of your score) so improvement in this one area can dramatically affect your score.
In this issue I want to encourage you to focus on some of the blocking beliefs you face when getting ready to putt. What are some of the thoughts that race into your head. For example.

  • I don’t want to three putt
  • I‘m afraid of leaving the putt short
  • I’m afraid of hitting it too far past the hole
  • I can’t read the green
  • My hands are shaking
  • I don’t know how hard to hit the putt
  • I’m the worst putter in my foursome

What ever your thoughts are you need to analyze them. Ask yourself why you feel that way and also try to think of other situations when you felt the same way. Let’s take the case of three putting.  Instead of just tapping on the immediate fear of “three putting” or “leaving the putt short”  try remembering prior situations or specific times in previous rounds when you actually three putted or left the putt short.  By tapping on those specific events you begin to address the root of your fear when it first surfaced.
If there is a specific time when you three putted to lose a match or ruin a good score that is a specific event and chances are there is still an emotional charge to the memory.  These are the kinds of specific events you need to clear out through the tapping process.  You should get to a point where after several rounds of tapping on specific events and times the memories of those events have zero emotional response to them. Then next time you get up to putt,  the fear of three putting will no longer have the same effect on you because you have cleared out emotional static associated with it.
Use this same process with all of the thoughts that seem to interfere with your putting and soon you will be two putting and even one putting greens instead of three putting.


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Monday, October 2, 2017 Newsletter - Issue 15

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October 2, 2017 -  Issue 15

"Golf is Not a Game of Perfect”


Most of us hear that and go duh, because it is such an obvious truth. We accept it and believe it yet we go out and play our round expecting guess what.....perfection. The worst part is most of us can not break 90 in an eighteen hole round, fewer still can break 80 and less than 1% are scratch or better.

No matter what the skill level golfers more than other athletes seem to place unrealistic expectations on themselves. Why, I'm not sure. Many of my friends play tennis yetdon't get upset over a missed return, throw their rackets after a missed serve or let losing a match ruin their day as happens to many golfers. Perhaps it's because at first glance the game of golf appears to be so easy.  The ball's not moving, nobody is throwing at us or chasing us or delivering a serve at one hundred miles per hour. All you have to do is swing the club backward and forward to hit a ball that is standing still. Heck,  half the time you get to tee the ball up it up making it even easier. Of course then we play for the first time and find out the game is far more difficult than we ever imagined.

Think about all the different variables that can occur in any one round of golf that affect either the ball or your swing. Different weather. Golf course conditions. Everything from different types of grass to well manicured fairways to goat pastures. On one fairway the ball sits up begging to be hit, on the other the ball nestles down in a depression between patches of grass. Fast greens and slow greens. Then there is our physical condition to consider. Some days we are more flexible than others. Our backs do not hurt as much, there is more freedom of movement in our hips and shoulders. Our hands mold to the club perfectly and everything feels good. And finally of course there is that little matter of trying to repeat the same golf swing every time.

Golfer's tend to be very self critical so this month's exercise is to be a little kinder to ourselves. No matter what your skill level you can use the following exercise to reduce your general anxiety on the golf course.

Tapping Routine – Select some phrases that describe how you feel when you make mistakes on the golf course or are not performing up to your expectations. For example “I expect to hit a perfect shot every time”, “Every missed shot is a missed opportunity”, “I feel hopeless after I miss two shots in a row”, “I feel like I'm wasting five hours”, “The game is too hard”, “ I get so angry after hitting a bad shot because it should be easy”, I feel like I'm wasting money paying expensive green fees”, “I'm frustrated that I'm not playing better after taking a lesson”. “Other sports come so easily to me”, “Other people people expect me to be good” These are just samples. There are many more. Follow the example below and then insert your own phrases that best describe your own feelings to zero in on your specific frustrations with this “imperfect” game. Rate your feelings on a particular situation on a scale of one to ten, one being almost nothing and ten being quite intense. Tap on the feelings with the most intensity until they are down to a one or zero.


Set-up Phrase. While tapping on the karate chop point on either hand I would start with;

Even though I expect to hit perfect shot every time I accept myself.

Even though to me every missed shot is a missed opportunity I accept myself”

Even though I feel hopeless after I miss two shots in a row I accept myself”

Shortcut phrases that focus on the problem. Tap on each of the following points while repeating the phrase next to it.

Eyebrow “I expect to hit perfect shots every time”
Side of eye
“Every missed shot is a missed opportunity”
Under eye
“I feel hopeless after I miss two shots in a row”
“Other sports come so easily”
“Other people expect me to be better”
“I feel like quitting after playing so poorly”
Under arm
“I'm to angry to enjoy my friends and the atmosphere”
Top of head
“I feel like such a loser”

One round of tapping consists of the set up phrase followed by the shortcut phrases. You can do a round on one feeling or you can insert several feelings into one round as I have done above, as long as they are dealing with the same issue.Do a half dozen or so round on the above example then tune in to your anxiety as you imagine yourself playing poorly or missing shots. Then zero in on any phrases or feelings that still give you a bit of a jolt when you focus on them. Tap for several minutes on the new or remaining feelings until they are down to an intensity of one or less.

Shortcut phrases that focus on a solution. After tapping on the problem I would then install some positive suggestions.

Eyebrow “What if I could stay happy for an entire round of golf”
Side of Eye “How much more would I enjoy myself”
Under Eye “Other people might enjoy playing with me more”
Nose “I'd probably play better if I was more relaxed”
Chin “I could recover after one bad shot, how many shots could I save”
Collarbone “How much of nature have I been missing”
Under Arm “I intend to choose new results for my golf game”
Top of Head “I appreciate how enjoyable a round of golf can be when I'm not mad”

Spend five or ten minutes a day for one week tapping on all the emotions you feel surrounding the fact that golf is an imperfect game and you play it imperfectly and you willfeel bettr playing your next round of golf.

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Friday, July 28, 2017 Newsletter - Issue 14

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Last issue we talked about why golf seems so hard compared to other sports.  To review, the takeaway was that in other sports you have more than one chance to be successful and the penalties are not as severe for a miss.  For example in tennis you can serve more than once and even if you are struggling, as long as you hit the ball back over the net between the lines you are still playing the point and continue to have a chance to hit a winner.  If you are up to bat at baseball you can swing twice and miss the ball and still have another chance or you can hit multiple foul balls without penalty and still have a chance to get a hit.

In golf the pressure to hit a good shot is intensified because you have only one swing and one chance to hit a good shot or suffer the consequences. On some holes one bad swing and you are out of bounds, or in a lake or in the woods.  Not only have you lost a ball but now you have to add a penalty shot,  drop a ball and try again to execute the same shot that just got you in to trouble. Definitely not a confidence builder.
Think of all the emotions that might be surfacing in this instance. Anger over losing a ball, frustration over having to take a penalty stroke, fear of having to hit the once more and possibly hitting it in the woods or out of bounds again. Possibly even embarrassment over wondering what your fellow golfers are thinking of you.
All of these are tappable issues but not necessarily while you are on the golf course.  Let’s be realistic you have limited time in between shots and even if there was time you probably wouldn’t want to start a tapping routine in front of your foursome and try to explain what the heck you were doing.
One of the great features of tapping is that it can be done both in the moment you are experiencing the emotion or at home in your easy chair when you replay the event and tap on your emotional response.
For example. Say you hit your tee ball out of bounds on a certain hole. Usually you will have thirty seconds to one minute before you have to hit again. You are in”the moment”.  The best thing to do is just tap on one particular point like the collar bone point for a few seconds while you mentally tune into your fear, anger embarrassment or whatever emotion you are experiencing. Then proceed with the shot. Later that evening or even the next day while sitting at home or in the office you can then replay the event in your mind and go through the whole tapping routine until your emotions  over that bad shot or bad swing have been neutralized.  After several rounds of tapping you should be able to replay or relive that event  in your mind and have no emotional response to it.  If after several rounds  you are still experiencing some emotional response,  there are other aspects surrounding it that have to be dealt with.
Some of the questions you might ask yourself are when was the first time you were angry over a poor performance.  When was the first time you felt pressure to be perfect.  When was the first time you were embarrassed over a poor performance.  It could be as simple as another time when you were younger and playing another sport or it could have nothing to do with sports. For example a teacher may have asked you to read in front of the class and you got embarrassed because you didn’t know some words or were uncomfortable speaking in front ot classmates.  It could even be a presentation you had to make in front of your boss.These would be considered original events when you first experienced  a particular emotion so you would want to neutralize these events as well.  This is explained in much more detail in the book.

Remember to try EFT on everything.  Use it on the course for anxiety over shots or putts, frustration with playing partners, slow play.  The uses are endless.  Next time you have a headache or sore shoulder try EFT on that problem as well.

Steve Botuchis

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